Wednesday, December 30, 2009

The Life That's Waiting For Us

We must be willing to get rid of the life we planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.
- Joseph Campbell

Susan & Martijn woven photo portrait

- D. Sippel

Two steps forward, one back. Time has a new quality, difficult to define.

I work at ‘discovering’ the life that is ‘waiting’ for me.

The year has been the best of times, the worst of times -

I struggle to find my identity, my sense of place.

Always mindful of my many blessings, family, friends and friendship,

I come to understand for the first time the ‘true’ meaning of process.

It has been a year of outward and inward journey.


Soul Lodging: A Magical Mystery Tour


Awareness - the first step toward healing. Awareness of how encircled I am. Grateful for continued contact with dear ex-hubby Bob Ingram, for renewed relations with brother Allen Schaefer, for the love and support of countless friends, colleagues and family.

Now I seek ‘soul lodging’. So thoroughly entwined was I within my marriage nest, bathed in belonging - all else seemed safe. I adored and was beloved. Martijn was my life’s witness.

I am unsettled. My quest now - to locate a new settled sense of soul. The half regenerated. The soul having been unraveled, untwined by the uncoupling.

Family, friends, colleagues weave around me a warp and weft - a thick, soft protective cocoon: The remaining toil is a solitary assignment.

Unsettled. I now craft a new consciousness awash in the gratitude of your countless contributions.

Happy Healthy Prosperous Sane New Year.

Monday, December 28, 2009

The Jewish outlook on Christmas

Maastricht Christmas Market

I couldn't resist posting this video link here. I love Christmas (even though I'm Jewish) helps explain how it felt growing up as a middle class Philadelphia Jewish kid living in Mt. Airy amongst my good friends, who were Catholic and Protestant. I just knew we all wanted the joy and warmth of this holiday.

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Holiday Glimpses

My Dutch (Martijn's) family this afternoon gathered at a cozy restaurant nearby Maastricht in Kanne, Belgium. Being together this year was a warm and cozy experience.
In case you don't know the real Kris Kringle is alive and well masquerading as Erik Reise keeping the Seward neighborhood of Minneapolis amused!

Monday, December 21, 2009

Gloves of light

Dutch Light ©2004 Susan Schaefer


Winter Solstice

Darkened hands seek

that crack beneath the door -

where shimmering

gloves of light

elongate


-Susan Schaefer

©2009


From the Writer's Almanac with Garrison Keillor December 21, 2009


In the northern hemisphere, today is the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year and the longest night. It's officially the first day of winter. It's officially the first day of winter and one of the oldest known holidays in human history. Anthropologists believe that solstice celebrations go back at least 30,000 years, before humans even began farming on a large scale. Many of the most ancient stone structures made by human beings were designed to pinpoint the precise date of the solstice. The stone circles of Stonehenge were arranged to receive the first rays of midwinter sun.

Thursday, December 17, 2009

Women's Leadership - Religion's Role

Today I reproduce two articles in full. They are important, they are thoughtful, they deserve your full attention.

The first is from yesterday's online New York Times which references the second, a speech by former US President Jimmy Carter, reproduced on his website. The topic is Women's Leadership - the role of religion. I have attempted to tackle this very subject in a PhD dissertation topic, but due to my own inadequacies since the death of my beloved husband, Martijn, have been too unfocused to do so. Previously, I have encouraged my friends, colleagues and followers, to read the works of the scholar and author, Riane Eisler, whose writings capture the topic of female/male equality. One of her websites: Center for Partnership Studies will lead you through a wealth of information on this topic. I believe that when women are finally and fully recognized at every level of life as equal, our lives on earth could transform for the better. So, please read on.




DECEMBER 15, 2009, 7:36 PM
Does Religion Oppress Women?

By NICHOLAS KRISTOF
One of the questions that Sheryl and I get most often when we give lectures about our new book, Half the Sky, is a variant of: Is religion the real problem? My own take is that religion has often been part of the problem, but that it also can be part of the solution. I’ve seen people kill in the name of religion, and I’ve seen people reject condoms in the name of religion even as a tool for fighting AIDS (which usually means people dying). But I’ve also seen Catholic nuns showing unbelievable courage and compassion in corners of the world where no other aid workers are around, and mission clinics and church-financed schools too numerous to mention. And in Islamic countries, I’ve seen mullahs who are hypocritical misogynists but also some imams who are leading a push for education and justice. In short, I don’t think there’s any glib answer to the question, but there is no question that religions can be a force for justice and equality that they are now not. This magnificent new speech by Jimmy Carter on this topic makes that point very well. Excerpts:

It is ironic that women are now welcomed into all major professions and other positions of authority, but are branded as inferior and deprived of the equal right to serve God in positions of religious leadership. The plight of abused women is made more acceptable by the mandated subservience of women by religious leaders.

The truth is that male religious leaders have had – and still have – an option to interpret holy teachings either to exalt or subjugate women. They have, for their own selfish ends, overwhelmingly chosen the latter. Their continuing choice provides the foundation or justification for much of the pervasive persecution and abuse of women throughout the world. This is in clear violation not just of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights but also the teachings of Jesus Christ, the Apostle Paul, Moses and the prophets, Muhammad, and founders of other great religions - all of whom have called for proper and equitable treatment of all the children of God. It is time we had the courage to challenge these views and set a new course that demands equal rights for women and men, girls and boys.

At their most repugnant, the belief that women are inferior human beings in the eyes of God gives excuses to the brutal husband who beats his wife, the soldier who rapes a woman, the employer who has a lower pay scale for women employees, or parents who decide to abort a female embryo. It also costs many millions of girls and women control over their own bodies and lives, and continues to deny them fair and equal access to education, health care, employment, and influence within their own communities.

Copyright 2009 The New York Times CompanyPrivacy PolicyNYTimes.com 620 Eighth Avenue New York, NY 10018



of the World's Religions
Melbourne, Australia

Dec. 3, 2009

Delivered via remote video from Atlanta, Ga., as part of The Elders project.

First, I want to thank Executive Director Dirk Ficca for making it possible for me to join you, even though remotely. I occupy a privileged position these days, best explained by a cartoon in New Yorker magazine. (President Carter explains cartoon about a boy who says "When I grow up, I want to be an ex-president.")

No longer in public office, I am able to receive exciting invitations like this, and also to speak without restraint on somewhat controversial subjects.

I am pleased to address the Parliament of World Religions about the vital role of religion in providing a foundation for – or correcting – the global scourge of discrimination and violence against women. As will be seen, my remarks represent the personal views of a Christian layman and a former political leader.

There are international agreements as well as our own Holy Scriptures that guide us:

Article 2 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights states: "Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, color, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, origin ... or other status ..."

The Holy Bible tells us that "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus." (Galatians 3:28)

Every generic religious text encourages believers to respect essential human dignity, yet some selected scriptures are interpreted to justify the derogation or inferiority of women and girls, our fellow human beings.

All of us have a responsibility to acknowledge and address the gross acts of discrimination and violence against women that occur every day. Here are some well-known examples:
Globally, at least one in three women and girls is beaten or sexually abused in her lifetime. (U.N. Commission on the Status of Women, February, 2000)
Our Carter Center has been deeply involved in the Republic of Congo. In war zones where order has broken down, horrific and sometimes lethal rape has become a tactic of warfare practiced by all sides.
In a study in 2000, the U.N. estimated that at least 60 million girls who should be alive are "missing" from various populations, mostly in Asia, as a result of sex-selective abortions, infanticide or neglect.
According to UNICEF, an estimated one million children, mostly girls, enter the sex trade each year and the U.N. estimates that 4 million women and girls are trafficked annually.
In some Islamic nations, women are restricted in their movements, punished for permitting the exposure of an arm or ankle, deprived of education, prohibited from driving a car or competing with men for a job. If a woman is raped, she is often most severely punished as the guilty party in the crime.
The same discriminatory thinking lies behind the continuing gender gap in pay and explains why so few women hold political office, even in most Western democracies.
You are all familiar with these facts, and I know you are considering the causes and possible solutions to this serious global problem.

There are clear indications that progress is being made in the secular world. We have seen women chosen as leaders in nations as diverse as India, Pakistan, Indonesia, Israel, Great Britain, Ireland, Chile, Germany, the Philippines, and Nicaragua. Their support came from citizens who are predominantly Hindu, Islamic, Jewish, and Christian, and include two of the three largest democracies on earth.

It is ironic that women are now welcomed into all major professions and other positions of authority, but are branded as inferior and deprived of the equal right to serve God in positions of religious leadership. The plight of abused women is made more acceptable by the mandated subservience of women by religious leaders.

Most Bible scholars acknowledge that the Holy Scriptures were written when male dominance prevailed in every aspect of life. Men could have multiple sex partners (King Solomon had 300 wives and 700 concubines), but adulterous behavior by a woman could be punished by stoning to death - then, in the time of Christ and, in some societies, 2009 years later.

I realize that devout Christians can find adequate scripture to justify either side in this debate, but there is one incontrovertible fact concerning the relationship between Jesus Christ and women: he never condoned sexual discrimination or the implied subservience of women. The exaltation and later reverence for Mary, as Jesus' mother, is an even more vivid indication of the special status of women in Christian theology.

I have taught Bible lessons for more than 65 years, and I know that Paul forbade women to worship with their heads covered, to braid their hair, or to wear rings, jewelry, or expensive clothes. It is obvious to most modern day Christians that Paul was not mandating permanent or generic theological policies.

In a letter to Timothy, Paul also expresses a prohibition against women's teaching men, but we know – and he knew – that Timothy himself was instructed by his mother and grandmother.

At the same time, in Paul's letter to the Romans, he listed and thanked twenty-eight outstanding leaders of the early churches, at least ten of whom were women. "I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a deacon of the church … greet Prisca and Aquila, who work with me in Christ Jesus … greet Mary, who has worked very hard among you… greet Andronicus and Junia, my relatives who were in prison with me; they are prominent among the apostles, and they were in Christ before I was … greet Philologus, Julia, Nereus and his sister, and Olympas, and all the saints who are with them."

It is clear that during the early Christian era women served as deacons, priests, bishops, apostles, teachers, and prophets. It wasn't until the fourth century that dominant Christian leaders, all men, twisted and distorted Holy Scriptures to perpetuate their ascendant positions within the religious hierarchy.

My own Southern Baptist Convention leaders ordained in recent years that women must be "subservient" to their husbands and prohibited from serving as deacons, pastors, chaplains in the military service, or teachers of men. They based this on a few carefully selected quotations from Saint Paul and also Genesis, claiming that Eve was created second to Adam and was responsible for original sin. This was in conflict with my belief that we are all equal in the eyes of God. The Roman Catholic Church and many others revere the Virgin Mary but consider women unqualified to serve as priests.

This view that the Almighty considers women to be inferior to men is not restricted to one religion or tradition. Its influence does not stop at the walls of the church, mosque, synagogue, or temple. Women are prevented from playing a full and equal role in many faiths, creating an environment in which violations against women are justified.

The truth is that male religious leaders have had – and still have – an option to interpret holy teachings either to exalt or subjugate women. They have, for their own selfish ends, overwhelmingly chosen the latter.

Their continuing choice provides the foundation or justification for much of the pervasive persecution and abuse of women throughout the world. This is in clear violation not just of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights but also the teachings of Jesus Christ, the Apostle Paul, Moses and the prophets, Muhammad, and founders of other great religions - all of whom have called for proper and equitable treatment of all the children of God. It is time we had the courage to challenge these views and set a new course that demands equal rights for women and men, girls and boys.

At their most repugnant, the belief that women are inferior human beings in the eyes of God gives excuses to the brutal husband who beats his wife, the soldier who rapes a woman, the employer who has a lower pay scale for women employees, or parents who decide to abort a female embryo. It also costs many millions of girls and women control over their own bodies and lives, and continues to deny them fair and equal access to education, health care, employment, and influence within their own communities.

Recently I presented my concerns to a group of fellow leaders known as The Elders, who represent practicing Protestants, Catholics, Muslims, and Hindus. We are no longer active in politics and are free to express our honest opinions. We decided to draw particular attention to the role of religious and traditional leaders in obstructing the campaign for equality and human rights, and promulgated a statement that declares: "the justification of discrimination against women and girls on grounds of religion or tradition, as if it were prescribed by a Higher Authority, is unacceptable."

Having served as local, state, national, and world leaders, we understand why many public officials can be reluctant to question ancient religious and traditional premises – an arena of great power and sensitivity. Despite this, we are calling on all those with influence to challenge and change the harmful teachings and practices – in religious and secular life– that justify discrimination against women and to acknowledge and emphasize the positive messages of equality and human dignity.

Copyright ©2009 The Carter Center. All Rights Reserved. cartercenter.org

Friday, December 11, 2009

Hanukkah: The freedom to celebrate

Hanukkah: The freedom to celebrate

Reproduced with permission from: Crossroads http://crossroadsmag.eu/2009/12/hanukkah/

December 10, 2009


Today is the 10th of December – a date prominent around the globe as that on which the Nobel Peace Prize is always awarded. Today it is particularly notable because Barack Obama, the first African American President of the United States of America accepted the honor in Oslo, Norway, because President Obama represents for many global citizens the hope for bringing peaceful resolution to places where conflict and repression reign, and because the peace prize represents ultimately the supreme attainment of peace - which is individual and societal freedom from repression and want.

Obama receives Nobel Peace Prize

US President Barack Obama wins 2009 Nobel Peace Prize

What many people do not know is that the Nobel Peace Prize is awarded on anniversary of the death of its founder, Alfred Bernard Nobel, a Swedish chemist, engineer, innovator, armaments manufacturer and the inventor of dynamite. I know this because it is also the date that marks the anniversary of the death of my mother, Emma Schaefer, whose parents, my grandparents, born in Europe, were denied the freedom from repression. Like so many European Jews, they were persecuted merely because of their choice to practice their religious beliefs freely. Both sets of my grandparents fled that Europe – the Europe of the Pogroms of the late 19th century, the Europe that denied basic freedoms to many groups because of their religion, beliefs, sect, color, or race. That Europe was the same that allowed Adolf Hitler to rise to power in an attempt to ultimately deny the Jews, among others, the freedom to exist, let alone to practice their beliefs.

And so it is fitting and poignant that this outstanding Black man, this global leader, the President of the country of my birth – the country that grants religious freedom to every individual entering its great shores, the country that helped the Allies to end such repression in Europe – should win the greatest honor in the world on the eve of a holiday that represents the celebration of just such freedom – the Jewish Holiday of Hanukkah, the festival of lights.

Hannukah Menorah

Photo by Rahel Sharon via Flickr

This year the joyous Jewish holiday of Hanukkah begins at Sundown on Friday, December 11th. Yet it is also poignant that many of my European friends are not aware of any Jewish celebrations and festivals. Here in Maastricht, like so many places in Europe, there are scant traces of Jews or Jewish culture.

In the city of my birth, Philadelphia, diversity became a ‘calling card’. Philadelphia wasn’t always so, but as I grew up, so did my city. In time, next to the gigantic Christmas tree and decorations in the grand City Hall courtyard, a giant Menorah was placed, the nine-stemmed candelabra that is the symbol of Hanukkah and the Jewish people. So, too, did Philadelphia eventually learn to mark Kwanza, an African holiday celebrated by many African Americans, and eventually the city began to note celebrations of many other cultural and religious groups as well.

Since this year since I will spend Hanukkah in Maastricht, where Sinterklaas, Christmas and Carnival are still the only public celebrations, I have decided to invite friends to share and learn about this festive and meaningful holiday. We will light the Menorah candelabra together, sing songs, share poems and stories, and of course, food and wine.

Perhaps someday Maastricht will grow more diverse and mark the various cultural rituals in a more open way. Until then, please let me share a brief description and explanation of this, my favorite Jewish holiday:

Many Americans are aware of the Jewish holiday of Hanukkah, with its ritual lighting of candles for eight nights, dreidel games, and festive mood, because it sometimes coincides with Christmas. But the Jewish calendar is lunar-based, having fewer months than the Julian calendar, and while Hanukkah is indeed a time for celebration amongst the Jewish people, the fact that it falls in winter near to Christmas is a coincidence – the two holidays have no common link, as do Passover and Easter. (Easter is determined the old fashioned way, by the moon.)

dreidel

A Dreidel is a four-sided spinning top, used to play a traditional Hanukkah game

The Hanukkah celebration, like all Jewish holidays, centers on remembrance, song and foods. Although the terms “festival” and “miracle” are commonly associated with Hanukkah (which has accepted alternative spellings), its literal translation, “dedication”, is integral to the story of the first Hanukkah. In fact, the lighting of the candles symbolizes more than the well-known miracle of the bit of oil that lasted for eight days and nights: the act also represents the rekindling of the spirit of courage and dedication to preserving religious freedom.

It was in the second century B.C. that the Jews of Palestine found themselves once again being persecuted for their religious beliefs. Around 168 B.C., a wicked Syrian king named Antiochus Epiphanies, who had openly proclaimed his hatred of the Jews, intensified his campaign to obliterate the Jewish religion and replace it with Hellenism. His torture of Jews is said to have included forcing them to pay homage to Greek gods and perform blood sacrifices at the pagan altars of Hellenism.

Such practices were against the very heart of Judaism, but the ultimate act of indignity committed against the Jewish people was Antiochus’ erecting such an altar in the most sacred Temple in Jerusalem. An aged Jewish priest, Mahathais Maecabaeus, living nearby Jerusalem in the city Modin, not only refused to engage in blood sacrifice, he slew an apostate Jew who was about to do so, and thus, struck the first blow against this persecution in those times. For the next three years the aged rebel and his five sons led a revolt against Antiochus, Hellenism and religious persecution.

Maastricht Synagogue

Maastricht synagogue

After Mahathais died, his third son, Judas, continued the revolt, finally defeating the well-fed, well-equipped army of Antiochus with his own raggedy troops. His ultimate triumph, however, was the restoration of the sacred Temple in Jerusalem. He and his followers cleaned and purified the desecrated Temple, expelling false idols and scrubbing the blood of heathen sacrifice.

And so, it was during this restoration that they discovered the precious vial of oil which had been used to fuel the Temple’s Eternal Light. On 25 Kislew, in the year 165 B.C., Judas and his people rededicated the sacred Temple, and although there was only enough oil to burn for one day, it miraculously lasted eight days and nights.

Hanukkah, therefore, represents far more than a miracle of lights, it represents the dedication of a people to the ideal of freedom. It seems so fitting that President Obama’s prestigious award in Norway, so close to Maastricht, sets the mood for this holiday precisely. May all of us, always have the freedom to celebrate our own customs in our own ways.

by Susan Schaefer
Schaefer Communications, LLC

December 10, 2009

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Barack Obama: Man of Peace, Man of Intellect

The absence of hope can rot a society from within


- US President Barack Obama

Accepting the Nobel Peace Prize

December 10, 2009

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Europe Awakens.

Finally, there is a “president” of the EU, (what a misnomer since he’s really president only of “The Council”, but who’s noticing that?), who reminds me of my late husband, Martijn – an intellectual listener who speaks Dutch and probably actually CARES about conciliation. Okay, his hard line Catholicism better not cloud his secular role.

Herman van Rompuy

And, while I don’t agree with his position against Turkey’s eventual ascension into “the club” also known as the EU, nevertheless, he has shown he knows how to herd cats. Cats in battleships. Just look at how he calmed Belgium’s tempestuous past political seas for proof. This guy knows how to use kibbles and clean up the litter!

Bravo for good old Europe. She seems to be awakening from a long sleep and figuring out that with a half billion ‘citizens’ she could do a lot more as a power in this needy world. Lisbon is a bit of wind in the sails.

Baroness Catherine Ashton

And ... appointing a British, female High Commissioner who also may prove to be a player rather than a wannabe celebrity. Bravo again.

Europe’s bureaucrats have made distinctly not sexy selections in “the low-key Belgian Prime Minister, Herman van Rompuy, and Baroness Catherine Ashton, 53, who has been the EU's trade commissioner for little more than a year.” Hoorah for non-sexy! Somehow, as an American I can proclaim this loud and clear. The sound-bitten, great-looking elected official has dominated American politics. (Okay, President Obama fits part of this bill, but he happens to have a lot more than straight white teeth and good looks.) Europe, sans orthodontics and quaffed coiffures, has made an historic choice. Mr. van Rompuy and Ms. Ashton received unanimous accord. As firsts to figurehead the highly contested Lisbon Treaty’s new offices, they seem perfect. Europe doesn’t need grandstanders to fill these first spots. Europe’s new ‘officers’ need balance and centeredness. What a concept, eh?


I think this day will be remembered if there’s a world 100 years from now. I think Europe might begin to move from purely economic to a somewhat political entity. And, I think it’s about time.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Autumn Images 2009

Frogs frolic and reflect at Martijn's marvelous monument, Autum 2009
Oostermaas Cemetery, Maastricht, Netherlands
Liege Cat, opera outing with Bob W, October 4, 2009, Liege, Belgium
Adrian, Pia and Alex, Coffee Lovers, Centre Ceramique, Maastricht, October 25 2009
Aachen Light, outing with Uli W, Aachen, Germany, October 17, 2009
Rosalind M., Birchwood Cafe, Minneapolis, MN, October 31, 2009

Reunion of friends, Longfellow Grille, Minneapolis, MN
Sunday, November 1, 2009

R: Diane B, Claudia C, Michael L., Tim D, David F; L: Kathy T., Janet D., Michael P.
Longfellow Grille, Minneapolis Riverfront, Sunday, November 1, 2009
L: Nick A. (hidden) holding Atley, John C., Michael L.; R: Caroline C. with girls
Longfellow Grille, Minneapolis Riverfront, Sunday, November 1, 2009

Claudia Chaves, Susan, Tessa Gunther, Heinz Brummel, Diane Berthel
Longfellow Grille, Minneapolis Riverfront, Sunday, November 1, 2009
L: Scott & Maureen Youngstrom, Susan, Suzanne Kochevar, Rich Heck
Redstone Grille, Minnetonka, Minnesota, Sunday, November 8, 2009
Rich & Suzanne, Carol Malkinson & Dave Hyde
Big Bowl, Ridgedale Center, Minnetonka, MN, November 10, 2009


Rocky Beach in Cottagewood, Deephaven, MN. Martijn's second favorite place to swim

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Maastricht Musings




Photo: ©Bert Janssen for Pecha Kucha
Susan listens to Bob at Pecha Kucha Maastricht evening


I am keeping busy, teaching Management Principles for a sort of community college, conducting research for Maastricht University's new architecture and urban planning programme, writing for our online expats' newspaper, Crossroads, becoming involved in the tenant's board of my apartment building and most critically, becoming more involved in the discussion about the conditions for expats in the Maastricht area. Here's my latest entry:




Maastricht Region Expats: The good, the bad and the ugly

October 21, 2009  By Drs. Susan Schaefer


The issue:
There is a leadership vacuum to initiate a strategic, creative problem-solving engine designed solely to address the well-documented lack of services, spirit and support for the Maastricht region’s expat community. In a coincidental way, this is tied into Maastricht’s bid to become European Cultural Capital City in 2018. What a powerful opportunity exists to embark on meaningful and sweeping cultural change.
The existing belief:
“We’ve already studied this issue!” We’ve had a research team and they provided us with their findings.” “We’re opening an international or expat desk at city hall. We’ve heard you. We’re moving forward.”
The reality:
It is very different. Being a member of the expat community here, one hears the deeper, underlying issues. This is not solely ‘anecdotal’ (gossip). There are serious disconnects, gaps that have to do with many criteria. But an overwhelming consensus from the expat, or international, residents is that Maastricht culture is not ‘embracing’. Once you’ve had your dinner out, picked your kid up from a good international school, seen a wonderful exhibit, heard André Rieu, you’re alone with only the other internationals. Maastricht and the region open only so far. Basically it is a tourist-oriented society. Actions speak louder than words and they say: “You are welcome to use our wonderful resources but please don’t expect to become a meaningful part of our society.” Hang out the “closed” sign.
Charles Landry, the world-renowned author and expert on creating Creative Cities, (places where diversity is truly embraced, welcomed and integrated into the existing culture), was in Maastricht last week as keynote of the Creativity and Innovation Conference. Landry notes that it is not enough to have nice cafés, museums, galleries, shopping, educational systems, parks, transportation, etc. Not enough. Rather, there must be leadership that guides meaningful change. Leadership that helps the public sector, businesses, educational institutions, NGOs, not-for-profits, etc., become themselves the change agents - change agents that understand that it is essential not only to attract but also to keep talent and diversity. To do so, like the City of Liverpool has shown, the public and private sector must find ways to meaningfully integrate this vast pool of ‘outsiders’, (a terrible Dutch word for those not inside the mainstream culture, buitenlanders.)
What’s at stake?
Everything. People who come here from other places leave. They tell others, “Oh, it’s a gorgeous area but too hard to integrate. Forget it!” Even the university students leave. We know that shrinkage is a future threat to cities. Bringing in internationals can and will help areas combat this imminent scenario.
Local businesses depend upon talent from around the globe. Local businesses need these highly educated guest workers to embrace and enjoy their experiences working, living and playing in the Maastricht region. Even the term guest worker brings up another time when less educated individuals were invited to do the work that no one else wanted to, then, once they completed their ‘assignments’ they were hung out to dry – left to fend for themselves. Not nice.
On the surface, this stunning area of the world seems ideal and idyllic. Lovely natural surroundings, interesting and comfortable housing, international schools for the children, a location that permits relatively easy access to everywhere in the world, nice cultural institutions, excellent accommodations and culinary establishments, fairs, festivals…. What else could anyone ask for?
Audience, audience, audience!
“We already know everything”, said one member of a planning team recently looking at the expat problem. “All we have to do is showcase, market, and promote our assets as listed above. The employers already know what their expats want.” This is precisely the thinking that keeps the problem encapsulated in its tight, shiny little bubble. The problem is, as we have seen with the economic crisis, eventually all bubbles burst.
Ask the expats what works, what doesn’t and why? Ask them in multiple ways. Hold “World Café” style forums all around the region. Have individual companies do this and prepare their findings. Convene “Open World Café” forums for those who live here but don’t work for the big companies. Hire the people from Maastricht University to facilitate them. They have excellent teams of facilitators working with young, bright professors in the business school and faculty.
Make the research a public relations effort in itself. Be visible. Show the expat community you care. Meet, tell stories, and integrate your talented ‘guest workers’ truly into the society here.
Expats are essential ingredients to a viable Maastricht region economy and cultural capital endeavor. They are audience and stakeholder. They represent an opportunity to open a society that is attractive but closed.
Communicate, communicate, communicate
Expats hear nothing from the leadership. An expat forum was held almost two years ago. The results were published but in very limited quantities. Public engagement means engaging the public in two–way conversations and publicizing the results. Communication is NOT A ONE TIME EVENT!
Begin an English language section in all relevant media. Employers could advertise to support this. Stores, cafés, restaurants could also advertise their goods in English to attract expat shoppers. Use the newspapers, brochures, and signage as ways to keep the dialogue flowing. Expats who stay on will learn the local language, but until they do, it is a responsibility to help them.
Show leadership
Someone has to take the lead in this. What is everyone afraid of? The entire community will sink or swim if something isn’t done to address how badly the expat situation is being handled.
Hold a creative strategic session with a neutral facilitator to help you figure out who should do what, when and why and with what resources. Divide up the tasks. But, please, do something.
About the author:
Drs. Susan Schaefer, APR, guides clients to seek answers in unexpected places. Certified as a facilitator from the MIT-Harvard Public Disputes Program, accredited in public relations (APR), with dual Masters’ Degrees in English Linguistics and European Public Affairs, Schaefer brings dynamic perspective to client work. The former newspaper publisher and editor, and active university professor and writer, has over 30 years experience providing counsel to government, business, NGO and not-for-profit leaders from such fields as higher education, banking, environment, architecture, engineering, finance, and law. Schaefer has received numerous professional honors, including the highest tribute in the United States’ public relations field, the Silver Anvil Award of Excellence, and the Diamond Achievement Award in Humanities from Temple University, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, which acknowledges intellectual achievement and the integration of a liberal education with social responsibility.

In September I hosted a reunion of my Masters in European Public Affairs class. We spent a weekend together. Pure bliss!


Here, in my Aunt Sybil's most enchanting garden sits my mother-in-law, Geri, enjoying a cup of coffee. 

My friend Sandra is now the executive director of the Netherlands Breast Cancer Society. Here we are at a pink ribbon event in Maastricht.



A new friend, Uli, gave me a tour of neighboring city, Aachen, Germany

Monday, October 12, 2009

Remembering the first man in my life - dad


It would be his 106 birthday, my dad. Born at the dawn of the auto age, he was car crazy. Jack Schaefer, urban cowboy, was a modern dedicated father before there the concept existed. He raised me, his only daughter, alone. My mom was a victim of post-partum depression before there was a word for that, too. He took care of us both.

I always light a candle the eve of the anniversary of his birth.

Creative friends make good 'copy'

Another Crossroads article makes nice reading. Please click Crossroads to read my latest story on The Art Makers: Intentional Maastricht transplants, and dear friends Barbara Greenberg and Pawel Kromholz, who make art and ambience in this remote corner of the world.

Sunday, September 20, 2009

The Reawakening: My Rosh Hashanah Story

I have reawakened from the depression of my grief. A friend told me to sound out the word, depressed, indeed, it sounds like 'deep rest'. I awake filled with my great loss, but now I am back in the world of feeling. There aren't proper words to thank everyone who walked by me during the dark year after Martijn's departure from this realm. So I say deeply, truly: "Thank You." Thank you for simply being there for me. I understand now how deep I sank and how much each of you supported me. Among you is a special friend, one I made recently in Maastricht, Sueli Brodin, who among her other talents and obligations, edits our local online 'expats' magazine, Crossroads. I have reproduced here my reflection about being an American Jew in Maastricht. Please link to the original at Crossroads, or please read on here.



A birthday apple for the world: Reflections of a Maastricht Jewish American on Rosh Hashanah and “The Days of Awe”

by Susan Schaefer

September 20, 2009

Faith is much better than belief. Belief is when someone else does the thinking for us.
-R. Buckminster Fuller

The advent of the autumn new moon marks Rosh Hashanah, which this year is 5770 of the Jewish calendar, and began at sundown on Friday, September 18, 2009, in the common era calendar. Rosh Hashanah starts the “the Days of Awe,” the most sacred ten day period in the Jewish year, ending with “the Day of Atonement”, Yom Kippur, a day of prayer, fasting and solemn contemplation. The period is a time when Jews reflect on the activities and behavior of the past year, questing to continuously develop as better individuals in the future, and seeking forgiveness for transgressions, not only from God, but also from one another, and not solely for ourselves, but also for the collective sins of our community.

Like so much of the Jewish culture – this idea of community is essential. Prayer and reflection are typically practiced in community in a temple or synagogue. I was raised in more secular household where Jewish traditions, rites and rituals were principally practiced in the home. The need to attend ‘services’ in a synagogue was not a cornerstone of my upbringing. Yet, like many modern Christians who only attend church for their high holidays of Easter and Christmas, I, too, enjoyed the rituals of these High Holidays as practiced in a synagogue.

Unfortunately, in Maastricht there isn’t a liberal or reform synagogue to attend. Here, the small Jewish community is rooted in an orthodox practice with which I don’t identify. Given the devastation of all European Jewry in the Holocaust, having even a small congregation of Jews is significant.


Synagogue in Maastricht, photo by Herman Pijpers

Nevertheless, I personally find it more comfortable to keep my faith in my own way. And so, I offer this reflection for others who also find themselves without the fellowship of their particular community at this sweet time of year so that they remember that faith can always be found within oneself, can be accessed at will, anytime and anywhere.

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Rosh Hashanah is also referred to as “the birthday of the world,” a time when we ask to be inscribed in “the book of life”. In general, food and music are the arteries for the heart of a Jew, and the apple is deeply associated with our New Year. It is a tradition to dip the apple in honey to remind us of the sweetness of life at this time of year.

When I miss the opportunity to be with community to celebrate, I choose a few alternatives that encompass the spirit of the occasion. First, I listen to an incredible CD recording entitled, “The Birthday of the World: The Liturgy and Music of Rosh Hashanah”, narrated by Leonard Nimoy with astounding music. (Yes, Star Trek’s own Mr. Spock is a Jewish Vulcan, oh vey!)

After listening to the liturgy and music, I typically try to commune with nature. Nature is my concept of God’s cathedral, and in nature I am better able to think about my Judaism, my life and my wishes for the new year to come. One year, I found this nature in my own front yard – in my apple tree.

This apple tree had rarely been appreciated or eaten of. A city girl by upbringing, having a yard and trees was an entirely new experience. However, I found myself deeply drawn to touch my tree, to take from it the sweet burden of its fruit. And in the act of tending my tree I came to myself. Relieving the tree of its offering – apple by apple – I also found myself growing lighter. This act of quiet, deliberateness drained from me the weight of the day-to-day burdens we all carry. Both the tree and I grew lighter and this “mindful” activity seemed in keeping with the spirit of Rosh Hashanah – a time to stop normal activity, to reflect.


Another remarkable thing happened while I pulled and twisted the ripe, meaty fruit from its source. I found myself harmoniously in the midst of something I otherwise fear – bees. Dozens of bees had discovered the sweet sustenance of decaying fruit that had already fallen. In order for me to harvest my share, I had to work in their company. Typically, I am afraid of these honey-making, stinging creatures. Yet, for no reason at all, I felt quite safe, somehow knowing that they were merely going about their business and would leave me to mine. So, a second miracle accompanied the act of picking my tree – I worked securely with my own fear.

The third small grace to befall me, for surely all holy enlightenments happen in threes, was my sudden ability to tend only what needed to be tended at the moment. By nature, I am a bit of an overachiever. My desk is littered with five to twelve projects and in my profession as a communications consultant, I’m frequently interrupted, even when I do manage to be working on only one project. Phone calls, e-mails, colleagues, and my own thoughts are constant barriers to “being here now”. Suddenly, picking these “lowly” apples, I felt no need to do anything else. I was content quietly circling the tree, methodically finishing one area before moving to the next. It felt like a clear metaphor for beginning my new year in more balance and contentment.

And so, I came to my new year with a sermon of self, spun from the branches of a tree of life.

Now, at this time of year, I remember to perform a mindful act each day, fully aware of the moment, and in so doing, relieve a burden or two from this hectic life of hyper-drive. I try to acknowledge and honor my fears and learn to work with them, rather than waging hopeless battles against them. And, finally, I attempt to see the beauty and necessity of performing one thing at a time, leaving juggling to the talented acrobats of those charming European circuses that have gained such recent popularity.

Vaeshartelt Castle, photo by Herman Pijpers

Maastricht offers astounding nature almost within her city boundaries. Limburg is graced with a contemplative beauty that allows one to find sustenance in God’s outdoor sanctuary. Community, indeed is where we create it. If each of us carries the spirit of our faith every day, practicing it year-round, we can find sanctuary in the heart of each human being, each element of nature, remembering that it is not where you are, but who you are that inscribes us in the book of life. I wish for everyone everywhere in the world, a sweet “New Year”.

Friday, July 31, 2009

Perspective - Retrospective

Rich Heck, Suzanne Kochevar and us, outside Paris, Spring 2005

Rich cares for Martijn, July 21, 2008

Suzanne comforts Martijn, July 21, 2008

Kelly comforts Suzanne, July 30, 2009

Rich basks in rain shower, July 30, 2009

The Martijn Tree, bathed in a rain/sun shower, Rich & Suzanne's backyard, July 2009

Through seasons, through time and space, through happiness, through health, through sickness, through sadness, Suzanne and Rich have been there for Martijn and me, and for me alone. They escorted us to our wedding, they made us part of their family at Christmases, they joined us to enjoy the blessings of our European lifestyle and then, at the most difficult moment in our lives, they came to help us as Martijn transitioned to the next plateau. Suzanne and Rich define dedication and love. Now, as Suz recovers from her knee surgery, I join them through yet more of life's transitions. I am blessed by their freindship.